#Selfconfidence is something that begins early in a child’s life. It needs to be nurtured and strengthened as children grow older and face various life challenges. As a parent, self confidence is a skill you can impart on your child. One way to do this is in how we speak to our kids daily. In the mundane routine of life, find opportunity to speak in a way that will boost their confidence and negate any negative beliefs they may have about themselves.
1. You’re great just as you are
As a child attempts to grow in self-confidence, it is helpful to have a parent instill a sense of worth. This holds true particularly in the schooling years, when comparisons and competition are rife. Children form their initial behaviors and beliefs from their homes. They tend to believe everything their parents tell them. Children need the assurance that despite what may be good in their friends or peers, they are a wonderful complete package. This does not cover up some faults that they work on, but it sets the foundation for them believing in themselves.
2. You’re beautiful
Every parent is going to think their child is beautiful. It may feel like it won’t mean anything to hear this compliment from a parent, but it does. It is especially important that the parent is not saying this sarcastically or only as part of a scolding (You think you are so beautiful, that beautiful face of yours is getting to your head e.t.c). There may be things you agree can be fixed – crooked teeth, ingrown nails e.t.c. These can be separate conversations, but every now and then let the ‘You’re beautiful’ be all that you say for about her looks. Complimenting your daughter’s looks and body helps her build positive body image.
3. You can do anything you want.
Children need to dream and look forward to something for their future. A parent who supports this dream helps them find the confidence they need to pursue it. This affirmation creates a positive space for them to work around other limitations like resources and abilities. But if they know you think they can do it, they will more likely do it.
4. I believe in you.
This compliment deals with accepting your child’s ideas and opinions. It does not guarantee you will always agree, but it gives room for them to prove themselves. It allows you to support your child through whatever they may need explore.
5. I love you.
Feeling loved is invaluable in building self-confidence. Reminding your child that they are loved assures them of your affection. It builds an emotional anchor that they can always rely on in years to come.
All the statements above are facts that you need to state to your child regularly. Say it to them when they least expect it, and especially outside of a relevant discussion. It should not feel like its something you are saying just to end the discussion.